The fact people are not communicating the way they used to in the past has become an ever-rising problem for most of the modern world. Social networks and media consume us to such extent that important things and conversations never get their turn. Luckily, Audrey Phillips, a famous entrepreneur, decided to put an end to this.
Cards for Humanity
Here’s one game that is not about winning — an idea many people living in today’s competitive climate don’t understand. This game’s goal is to spark a conversation and include people into it. The aim is to make people who are complete strangers to each other communicate properly.
Audrey is on a mission — she wants to change the world one conversation at a time. And she’s using the most common and simple-minded tool to do so — cards. Phillips says that we waste too much of our time on small talk, as pleasant and productive as it may be. We talk too much about TV, reality shows, and sports, which makes us miss our chances to truly connect to other people. The cards Phillips produced have different questions for us — they want us to talk about our feelings, social media, heartbreaks, sports, happiness, or sadness. The cards exclude nothing and include everything.
The so-called “friend-making” industry in Seattle has been booming for a while now, and Phillips is only one of many to join this cause. Connect Lounge and The Evergrey have launched a project together, called “speed-friending.”
How Do You Play Cards for Humanity?
Each player needs to choose five question cards and put them face down on the table. Then, you choose whatever card you find interesting or want to talk about. Of course, a player should never answer a question they are not comfortable with. The same goes for peer-pressuring — you should never force another player to answer a question they don’t like.
The most magnificent thing about these cards is that truly anyone can play — you can see people in their twenties playing with people in their sixties at the same table. Moreover, it doesn’t even matter what your background is. You can be a retired mechanic who is really into gardening or even an ex-doctor who adores pottery. Fear not, because cards for humanity have a place for you too.
One of the interesting questions that occur at the table is, “What makes you anxious?” As everyone is reluctant to answer this one, an older man answers. His biggest fear is participating in dialogues where people use words and phrases he had never heard of. Being a baby-boomer, there are so many millennial expressions whose meaning he doesn’t know.
Questions can be very diverse — such as, what was the most interesting thing you heard today or what does perspective mean for you. Either way, once someone sparks a discussion, there is no stopping it. And only once everyone gets quiet will someone pull out a new card to start a new debate.
The natural course is that questions get more personal with each card — and people connect to such an extent that they talk about the most intimate things. So when you see a completely quiet programmer, such as Andrew Sheng, all of a sudden saying he loves botany, you better appreciate it. These situations don’t occur so often.
“I love Seeing People Open up and Share Their Thoughts”
Phillips says that seeing so many strangers genuinely sharing their stories and passion brings her great joy. This game she invented makes people feel appreciated, respected, and heard. This is exactly the way Audrey intends to change society for the better.
Did this idea randomly come to her? Not quite. Audrey was always an optimistic and kind-hearted person, even as a child. In kindergarten, she would always approach that one lonely kid. She will also ask strangers how they’re doing as she waits to board on her plane. That is precisely how she met a lot of friends.
During her studies at Bowdoin College, Audrey decided to write down quotes by famous people — such as John Lennon, Maya Angelou, and Mary Oliver. And these quotes were about all the natural human emotions that were either hard to go through or always welcomed. Soon, these quotes turned into small cards.
After a while, she decided to get in touch with the Seattle company that produced Cards Against Humanity to make a deck of 365 cards. Luckily for her, and everyone else, the company was up for this challenge.
Today, Phillips organizes events wherever she goes. She calls them “365 Meaningful Conversations,” and the price to attend is $20. Although Audrey understands this might be pricy for some people, she hopes the ticket price will go down very soon. Her aim is not to earn money — she merely wants people to connect. She has already organized 20 of these events in various locations, such as restaurants, cafes, and social spaces all over Seattle.
Is Audrey Successful?
Quite so! The events are nearly always sold out, and people of all different caliber come to join in the fun. And don’t get the wrong idea — it’s not exclusively lonely people who miss talking to their friends who come. A lot of folks who are very comfortable with their social skills join these events.
Overall, everybody is a winner in this game, and everyone enjoys participating. Some people exchange their numbers and remain in touch, while others never meet again. But that doesn’t mean they don’t go back home filled with excitement that their feelings and ambitions were acknowledged. So if you happen to be in the area, join Audrey and her wonderful cards — everything implies that you will have the time of your life.